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I have always prided myself on being honest with my kids and since the first questions started arising about sex, where babies come from, drugs, drinking and smoking I have been open with my kids and in an age appropriate way have always told them what I believe. Now my kids are older and I believe they are fairly honest with me. They tell me what girl is sleeping with what guy, who snuck out last Friday night, and who got drunk at the last party. I put my oldest daughter on birth control about a year after she started her first period and told her that I would prefer she didn’t become sexually active until she was married saying that I wanted it to be special for her which is true. I also told her that if she didn’t wait until then she needed to use a condom as well as her birth control because of sexually transmitted diseases. Now I thought this would be a difficult conversation for her to listen to but it ended up being very open and honest. She had questions about sex and waiting as well as more physical questions like how do you put a condom on and how do you get diseases. This opened up a whole new realm of honesty and I’m glad I talked to her and all of my children from an early age. When it came to the big talk it didn’t seem like such a bad thing, I was honest and she listened which most kids of her age don’t do. Now it’s time to have the same talk with my younger daughter and I hope it turns out as well. I know some people will disagree with me putting my girls on birth control saying it is encouraging them to have sex but I disagree I feel it prepares them just in case. Peer pressure can come on at any given minute and I would rather my kids be protected if they have that moment of lapsed judgment then not being prepared and end up being teen parents as I did.

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