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My oldest child is hanging out with some bad kids.. wait I shouldn’t say “bad” kids because I don’t really believe there are any. So how should I classify them? Hmm how about challenging kids. The ones who haven’t been in some kind of trouble with drugs, drinking, and/ or the law, just haven’t been caught yet. I know that may sound a bit harsh to say that ‘they just haven’t been caught yet’ but I know what I’ve over heard my daughter saying about these kids, I know what my daughter has told me herself about these kids, and I know what I have talked to these kids parents about.. They just haven’t been caught yet. So to continue with my cycling. My daughter has chosen to hang out with these kids even though she has been grounded for doing so. I spoke about this in one of my posts.. when do you put your trust in your parenting skills and your child? Should I trust that she is making good decisions even while with bad influences? Well I was desperately trying to do just that but when things like today happen I have to wonder if I’m wrong. She had some provocative and sketchy photo’s that she posted on myspace labeled tweeker days 1 and 4. I totally freaked when I read it. She didn’t look high in the pics and she hasn’t shown any behavior that would make me think she is tweeking but Why would she post it that way? So I asked her. She simply said that in the picture she looked like she was tweeking so that was how she labled it as if it were no big deal. In the picture she was with one of the girls who have been in LOADS of trouble with parents, aunt and uncle, and with the law on more than one occasion. So do I trust that my child is making the right decisions? So this is where the ” what if’s ” come in. I got extremely upset when I saw her pictures and went through all of the “what if’s “! It would take me the rest of the early morning to list all of them but here are a few that have me running circles in my mind. What if she becomes a drug addict? What if she is already a drug addict? What if she becomes promiscuous? What if she runs away? (will be posting a blog about this later) What if she became pregnant? What if she became pregnant with a drug addicted baby? And the list goes on and on. So these are my cycling “what if’s” for the day. It goes with being a parent and I’m sure these won’t be the only “what if’s” in my parenting career but for now these are the ones I’m focused on, or at least for as long as I can focus.

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