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So my last post was about peer pressure and sex so my question now is… do you want to know? If your child is smoking, drinking, having sex, do you want to know? How will you deal with it if you find out that your child is doing these things? Are you prepared? Heaven forbid your children are doing these things are doing worse like drugs how do you respond? My kids are all at the ages where these things are coming close to home. My oldest daughter, of course, is facing these things more often than the younger children so I ask myself how I’m going to handle these things if I find out she is doing them. Well my daughter smokes, she knows I know and I don’t make it easy for her. If I find lighters, matches, or cigerettes they are thrown away. I don’t give her money to just blow on whatever she wants. If there is something specific she wants and I know the price I will give it to her when I can but nothing extra that she could possibly get smokes with. I do not let my daughter go to parties that the parents may not be supervising real well so that helps with the drinking, drugs, and sex. I talk to her about the dangers of all of them and remind her that I would hope that she makes smarter choices than to participate in such activities and that she can talk to me. So how would I react if I found out she was doing these things? I would honestly probably hide myself for a few minutes and cry, then I would come out and talk to her about it after I calmed down. I would of course ground her and tell her she wasn’t allowed around her friends that she was with while she was engaged in such activities. I don’t know how much that would help to prevent further action but I would try all the same, as any parent would. Depending on what the situation was I believe I would look for outside help as well as support from friends and family. It truly does take a village to raise a child and I would be there to support another parent in need so if I needed it I wouldn’t hesitate to ask for help. Being a single parent sometimes help is scarce but you’d be surprised who may support you and your decisions you make for your children. SO how would you handle these situations? Or have you already dealt with other things like this? What would be your advice?

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