generalparenting

I had all of my children between the ages of 16-20 and they all have different daddys. Now I know I know exactly what you are thinking, and you may be right I could definitely have shown some restraint when I was a teen. Now I have three beautiful children and I wouldn’t change that for the world so I guess in a way I don’t regret it.. just wish I would have waited several years. My problem though is this, my oldest daughter and my son have fathers who have popped in and out of their lives periodically and I have a problem with this. My oldest daughter’s father has never taken care of his responsibility as a father. He has never been there for the boo boo’s, the temper tantrums, the bad dreams, the school report cards, the boyfriends, the friends, birthdays, holidays, none of it. He has never paid child support even though his order is for less than $100 a month. I know I sound angry sorry that is not what this is about. Now all of that I have come to terms with but what I just can’t come to terms with is how he comes in and out of her life. Every few years he shows up, pretends to show some interest in her life, sometimes even talking to her, and within a few weeks or months he ends up focusing on me. When I don’t want bothered he drops all correspondence with my daughter, breaking her heart. Now something similar is happening with my son. Around easter he found me on myspace and asked a few questions about my son. When I asked why he was getting a hold of us after all of these years he said “curiosity got the best of me.” Isn’t that the most ridiculous response you’ve ever heard? So any way he wrote to my son a few times on myspace but only when my son would write first.(usually more than once before getting a response) Finally in June on my sons birthday he just stopped writing. Well on His birthday he had his son write to my son asking why he didn’t wish him a happy birthday. My son was shocked that he had gotten any note because it had been months since he heard from his Sperm Donor (sorry but that’s all he is). He wrote back hoping that this time would be different. Well long story short he hasn’t written since. So what would you do? Would you let your child know when their father shows up or would you try to protect them from the heart ache that is sure to follow? 

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